Well, it’s that time again…the end of another year, the beginning of a new one.
So many people thinking about what their New Year’s Resolutions are going to be.
I’ll be honest. I can’t remember one New Year’s resolution I made in the past years. Maybe it’s because I was never truly serious when I thought of one last minute…or maybe it was because I forgot about it a week after I made it…or maybe it just made me feel bad about myself…I don’t really know.
I do know this though…New Year’s resolutions don’t work and here’s why:
Resolutions are like diets…they promise big, usually focus on unrealistic, drastic changes, are rooted in everything that’s wrong with your current life (a.k.a. guilt and disappointment) and end up making you feel like a failure when you can’t follow through 100%.
Resolutions usually come about because of something that is not working at the current time or hasn’t worked in the past…
“I’m going to go on a diet because my last one failed…I failed…and now I’ve gained weight.”
“I’m going to get a new job because this one is sucking the energy out of me and I hate it.”
“I’m going to swear off dating because my past relationships have all ended horribly.”
Resolutions, by their very nature, are rooted in everything that hasn’t gone right in the past, and therefore are usually created from a place of lack and negative energy.
They also cause you to keep living in the past, measuring your current successes against a reality that no longer exists, yet is continuing to add negative emotions to your life.
The dictionary actually defines the word “resolution” as an “act of resolving” or “finding an answer to a conflict.”
So it forces us to look at everything that is “wrong” in our lives and consider how we should “fix” it and/or ourselves.
That’s no fun…and if you ask me, that’s not very inspiring either.
This is no way to start off a new year…so what do you do then? Continue reading