I’ve talked quite a bit about one of the first things I did when I began my spiritual healing journey, which was going to Buddhist mediation classes at the Kadampa Center here in New York City. It truly was the most life-changing steps I could have taken.
I went regularly for about 6 months, each time feeling another weight lifted off of my shoulders. I gained so much clarity about what was happening in my life and why. My anger, sadness and hopelessness subsided as each week passed and for once I began to feel in control of my life.
What’s interesting about control is that we so often feel like we’re not in control, so we spend most of our lives fighting to get it back.
One of the breakthroughs I had when attending the Buddhism classes was that I was actually always in control of my life…my emotions, my beliefs, my circumstances, my outcomes.
And you are too! We all are! (Deep breath.)
There are many techniques I’ve learned over the past few years that have allowed me to gain back the control I had let go of for most of my life, but today I want to share with you a powerful Buddhist lesson I learned at the Kadampa Center which helped me start that process.
Maybe you’ve heard this or something similar to it. Maybe you’ve heard me say this statement at other times, because it’s incredibly powerful.
However, the power in any lesson is not in learning it, but applying it.
That’s when we see the proof of its validity.
I’ll always be a skeptic of any idea, but only because I want to experience truth rather than just understand it.
So I began applying this concept to my life. In small ways first and then more consistently to all scenarios.
I would say it to myself when I came across challenges, such as disagreements with friends or family, the New York City subway (one of the best places to test out patience), stress at work, plans that went wrong, getting sick and so on….
And gradually amazing shifts began to happen. I felt calmer, more in control over my emotions, happier, more fulfilled with far less, things that would have normally upset me didn’t affect me at all. In fact I often laughed at things that would have made me cry or get angry. I experienced the truth and power of this truth and I want you to as well.
We create our circumstances by the filters through which we view them. That’s why two people can be present in the exact same situation yet have completely different experiences of them. This will lead to each one feeling different emotions as a result of those experiences. Continue reading